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How to make a long distance relationship last

2018-05-01 04:48:38

Everyone says long-distance relationships are hard, but that doesn't have to sway your long-distance relationship. With the right commitment and communication, long-distance relationships can be more stable than those that are geographically close. By simply adjusting your attitude and lifestyle habits, you too can break the curse of separation.


1. Keep. Because you can't see each other often, it's even more important to try to establish and maintain an emotional connection. Talking to your partner about even small things shows that you are investing your time and energy into the relationship. It'll also give you a glimpse into each other's recent lives. If there is a big gap (a few days not), your daily life will seem even more insignificant, and every conversation will have to start from the beginning. Find out how your partner likes to communicate. Try several methods of communication and see what works best for you. Try texting, emailing, or video calling to keep each other up to date on all the little details of your day. Schedule your communication in advance. If you know you may be too busy to communicate later, tell your partner in advance and try to keep it that way. If you're not as busy as your partner, make your schedule more flexible and do things that interest you.


2. Talk more about everyday things. Don't think that every conversation has to be in-depth, one is to talk about love, talk about hopes, talk about dreams. Talk about the small things that non-long-distance couples talk about, such as going to the supermarket, doing housework or decorating the house. This will give you a sense of building a home together, which is definitely what you're looking forward to together. Talking about the boring things that happen in your life can also increase your connection and interdependence, and strengthen the foundation of your relationship.


3. Visit more often. If financial conditions allow, try to make time to visit each other more often. Take any chance you can get together. Visit each other regularly, or at least set a time to see each other again after each visit. Face-to-face communication is just as important as relationship satisfaction, commitment, and trust. Create your own meeting ritual, go out to your favorite restaurant, or enjoy a quiet evening at home, or engage in some other activity you enjoy. Schedule your schedule. Don't let time push you. Determine what time to meet at the airport/train station. Bring only one duffel bag, or leave some basic supplies at his/her place, and don't waste time waiting for luggage. Leave home from time to time. Meet somewhere new, or meet at your midpoint.


4. Get to know each other. Just like any other couple, you should spend more time getting to know each other. While you're talking, jot down what your partner likes (hobbies or daily activities) and do a little research to add to the conversation. It's also important to know each other's preferences if you want to give each other gifts. For long-distance relationships, exchanging gifts is also a way to communicate how you feel about each other.


5. Remember, he or she is only human. Distance creates beauty, but it can also cause you to idealize your partner's image. While idealization can make a relationship stronger, extreme idealization (thinking the other person is perfect) can lead to a gap when it comes to actual meeting. Keeping it daily will help keep your partner in check and will allow you to see all the changes your partner is going through.


6. Be there for each other, even if there is distance. If he or she is having trouble, sadness, or other problems, be there for him or her. This will show the other person that you care. If your partner ends up dealing with these important things on their own, he or she won't need you. Codependency is the willingness to give up doing things that interest you for the sake of the other person or the relationship. Giving each other enough support fosters codependency, which is crucial for a long-distance relationship. Codependency can manifest itself in everyday activities, compromises on decisions or long-term behaviors (smoking).


7. Trust. No matter the distance, trust is very important. Be loyal and refuse temptation. Even if you make a mistake, it's important to be honest. Be honest with the other person, even though sometimes it might be in your best interest to lie. For example, if you are in a place where temptation is possible (a bar), lying may be a better option for you, but being honest will be more beneficial to your relationship. Use email and other online sources to foster trust.


8. Get engaged. Be open and honest about your personal information. Both partners should be mentally committed enough to be together because of the same personal values, not because of social pressure. Personal values include beliefs such as "it is my character to remain loyal." Social stress includes social sense of right and wrong. "If I cheated on my girlfriend, my mom would be devastated and my girlfriend would break up with me." Notice if your partner tries to pressure you into doing things that only benefit him or her, lying about an accident in order to get you to pick him or her up while you're doing business. If there is deception and manipulation in the communication process, it is necessary to think carefully about why there is a lack of trust in your relationship.


9. Don't be upset or upset by what the other person said/did. If there's a problem, just say it. Communication is important. Communication builds trust and makes your bond stronger. If you're worried about what your partner will do to make you sad because of your whim, the relationship won't last.

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Before the next meeting, make a creative countdown gift and send it to him/her. For example, make a photo calendar and write words of love on it.


Try writing letters. You can often chat on the site, and write letters to have a little surprise. You can also get to know the other person better, handwriting and things like that, and you can ask him or her to draw little pictures for you. Good luck to you!